Deany Laliotis LICSW

A Simple Strategy to Help Clients Keep Perfectionism in Check

How to Find Balance When Confronting Avoidance

What to Do When Fear of Change Fuels Your Client’s Avoidance

Working with a Self-Narrative That’s Become a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Key Signs That a Self-Narrative May Be Turning Unhealthy

How to Validate a Client’s Self-Narrative Without Reinforcing Unhelpful Beliefs

One Way to Help Clients Pinpoint a Past Experience That Might Be Fueling Impostor Syndrome

Helping Clients Identify the Root of Their Fear of Rejection

Looking at Emptiness through an Attachment Lens

Working with Self-Absorption That’s Disguised as Compassion

Why We Need to Build Greater Tolerance for All Affect

Working with a Client Who Had Learned to Avoid His Inner Experience

Feelings are Real, but It Doesn’t Mean They’re True

Loneliness is Part of Your Experience, Not Who You Are

The Challenge of Repairing Childhood Neglect

Loneliness Connected to the Adoption Experience

Where Did You Learn to Ruminate?

You Have to Do the Work before the Work

An Invitation to Experience

An EMDR Approach to Working with Rigidity

Are You Willing to Give Up Your Fantasy of Perfection? A Client Story

When Past Hurts Trigger Despair in the Present

An Incremental Approach to Helping a Client Tolerate Uncertainty

Extending an Invitation to Approach Deeper Issues – A Client Story

Three Considerations to Keep in Mind When Approaching a Client’s Shadow Side

Working with a Shadow Side Cloaked in Victimhood

How Grief Unlocked a Lifetime of Feelings of Unworthiness: One Psychotherapist’s Story

How to Help When Feeling Like They’ve Never Fit In Is Driving Your Client’s Presenting Problem

Structuring the Therapeutic Relationship When Conflict Avoidance Is Rooted
in Trauma

How to Address a Pattern of Control that Obstructs a Client’s Ability to Process Traumatic Memories

Avoiding One Critical Misstep in Working with Hopelessness

How to Work with Patterns That Lead to Experiences of Gaslighting and Manipulation

Why It’s Important to Address the Power Differential Between Therapist and Client in Cases of Gaslighting or Manipulation

How to Help Clients When Ingrained Patterns of Ruminating and Obsessive Thinking Intensify Their Regret

How to Respond When a Client Turns Their Jealousy or Envy Toward You